ExtraOrdinary Juggling by TLC Nielsen

Welcome to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, where you meet ordinary folks on their extraordinary journeys in life! Updates on past interviewees tend to be posted mid-month while new interviews are posted on the last day. Finding folks to interview isn't always easy, but it's always worth it.

This month I'm lucky to interview someone who juggles life positively as it comes, from teaching homeschoolers to writing books while being married to a man who travels often and can, in fact, juggle. Please welcome Michelle Habrych, author of You Are Not Alone: My Experience with Postpartum Depression, Bible study leader, speaker and all-around puzzle lover. Welcome, Michelle!

Q) Since I first met you long ago when you were a teen, I've often wondered about your wonderful, upbeat nature—despite all the glitches of life. So how do you do that, juggle positivity and life's wonkiness?

I don't know! I have a generally optimistic outlook on life. I guess it's how God made me. I try to find the good in what's around me or to bring the good to it. In high school, I had the lighthearted motto under my senior photo in the yearbook, "Life's too short not to be in love" but I feel that if you change that to say "Life's too short not to look on the bright side" you would have my current outlook. I typically choose to look at the good in a situation. I also consider thinking about what is true, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy to be the best way to live (Philippians 4:8). 

Q) I love that you married your high school sweetheart and wonder how that relationship impacts your upbeat nature?

He's my best friend. I am grateful to have someone in my everyday life who has known me in the good and the bad, through the easy and the difficult and loves me anyway. We have fun together and are silly with each other and our kids, so I think that definitely reflects in my attitude.

Q) Because I admire all that you do—leading Bible studies as well as virtual and in-person books clubs—how do you accomplish so many varied activites?

I don't clean. Seriously. Also, I would have to say that I decide what is something I most want to do—I make time for it. Unfortunately, that sometimes means the things I really want to do that are hard (such as writing my novel) have taken a backseat to the temporary, easier things. I am learning to change that.

Q) Since public speaking is something new for you, how has that influenced you recently?

Hearing from someone how sharing my story has impacted her personally has been a life-changer. Knowing that my words matter and can make a difference, that someone might seek help because I shared my personal journey through postpartum depression, makes it worthwhile.

Q) Your book covers one of the harder things you've gone through, depression, so how did you navigate through that?

That's a loaded question! When I realized I was experiencing postpartum depression, I saw it as a problem to be understood and fixed, though it was not that simple. I did a lot of research, tried a lot of things, and sought help for my symptoms so I could "overcome" the mental illness that descended upon me after the birth of my second child. It was a process that took time, but through it all I learned a lot. I am definitely more able to empathize with any person experiencing mental illness. Although mine was a situational depression and had an end, I know that is not always the case. I encourage anyone feeling any depressive symptoms to seek professional help so that healing may begin, thought it may take longer or not be a complete healing this side of eternity.

Q) Can you name the top three individuals who have impacted you the most along the way and mention how they did so?

My high school youth pastor Jeff impacted me by creating a welcoming group where teens were encouraged to be themselves, not some cleaned-up facade. He allowed me to use my talents for the benefit of all, where I created a newsletter and a yearbook for our youth group. He also helped me by demonstrating what an authentic faith in Jesus looked like and led me to make a life-changing prayer to trust and follow Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

My best friend Krista lived life with a joyful attitude despite the trials she experienced medically and situationally. She loved me, supported me, and demonstrated true faith to me. My mom is the most loving and encouraging person in my life. She has always been on my side, supporting me through it all.

Q) Is there something that has really surprised you along the way?

I am constantly surprised. I have been surprised when I am blessed and surprised when I am persecuted or experiencing difficulty. I was surprised when God called me to homeschool my kids and leave behind a career in journalism, and even more surprised when I became a teacher focused on high school students at our homeschool group where I still am blessed to be able to teach years after both of my kids have graduated from my homeschool!

Thanks, Michelle! 

Please check out Michelle's social media here:

www.facebook.com/MichelleHabrych/
www.instagram.com/michellehabrych/
michellehabrych.com/

ExtraOrdinary Entrepreneur: Andre Rivera

by TLC Nielsen

Andre Rivera is quite the entrepreneur—not only is he the owner of the Andre Alfonso Music School and Store but also the bandleader of two popular local bands, Here for the Summer Collective as well as Salsavera. I've had the pleasure of watching both bands live and they're amazing. 

Welcome to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, Andre!

Q) With so much going on in your life, how did you get your start in music?

I got my start in music in 4th grade band. Just like everyone else at the time, I wanted to play the saxophone, but it was my parents that wanted me to try the trumpet. I fell in love with how simple it was to play—no reeds, only three valves—you could throw it together right out of the case. Eventually I played in my school concert bands, jazz bands, pit orchestras, marching band—just about everything I could fit into my schedule.

Q) Too many music students stop playing—why did you keep making music?

I keep making music because it's a part of my identity. Throughout my professional career, music has brought me together with people in the industry I had once looked up to and now share the stage with. It's quite overwhelming sometimes, but I find that each performance is fulfilling in its own way.

Q) Which came first, your bands or the music store?

I started with the band, and it grew into much more. Ten years ago, I started my band called Here For The Summer Collective the same month that I graduated high school. I really didn't know where music was going to take me when we started rehearsing in my parents basement. I've parted ways with most of the original crew but have made many more friends through the band since. Recently I've expanded the band to include an assortment of talent including a full salsa orchestra called Salsavera, which has opened for international and national touring acts and will now be entering the wedding circuit.

Our music store is going to celebrate its 3rd full year in business in 2025—a milestone for anyone who has been retail before. We are hoping as we continue to grow our reach in Lake County that we can start carrying some more recognizable musical brands our customers love.

Q) Running several music groups as well as a music store makes me wonder how you got your start in business. What was your first entrepreneurial experience?

My first entrepreneurial experience was in college. I remember starting to work at my college radio station, quickly learning how to run and operate a recording studio and live sound equipment. Eventually the college reached out and had me produce the music for their upcoming commercial for the dining hall.

Q) Who inspired you to do all that you're doing?

There are so many people to acknowledge that have had a tremendous impact on my upbringing and put me on the right track. I wish I could say everyone, because it truly is the work of a village of teachers, professors, band directors, coaches, friends and family that I pull from to make this work. I would say my inspiration for the music school comes from my work with Dr. Roosevelt Griffin, one of my mentor teachers, who inspired the framework for the Andre Alfonso Music School.

Q) You've had so many firsts in the past year—a new big storefront, a wedding and the arrival of your baby! How do you juggle everything?

Again, it's really a village that makes this work. My wife, my family and sweet mother-in-law who volunteered to help with childcare at home have been quintessential to supporting the dreams I have had. I really owe it to them and my son Andy for being supportive in the best and worst of times.

Q) Where do you see yourself down the road over the next five years, both as an entrepreneur and family man?

As an entrepreneur, I expect that the Andre Alfonso Music brand will extend into more sales, repairs and educational outreach in Lake County, Illinois. We are always coming up with unique and exciting programming for our students and the community to engage in. I also hope that my son starts taking music lessons as soon as I can get him to sit with me while I play an instrument!

Q) Along the way, when did you experience a huge surprise and what happened after?

The biggest surprise for me was finding out about the opportunity to expand our music school and store once again in Lake Villa. I started teaching lessons out of my parents' basement and, over the course of a few short years, went from about a 50 square foot studio to a building with almost 4000 square feet, complete with rehearsal rooms, practice rooms, recital venue and a storefront. As a result of this space, we have been able to grow our programs and music teaching team from a solo studio to an all-encompassing music school with about 10 teachers on staff.

Andre is hosting the ribbon cutting on November 4th as well as an open house for his store on November 16th so check that out here.

To follow him on his social media:

Website: https://www.andrealfonsomusic.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrealfonsomusic
Email: andrealfonsomusic@gmail.com
Andre's bands: Salsavera and Here for the Summer 

UPDATE: Extraordinary Touch–Reflexology by Melanie

by TLC Nielsen

Welcome back to the EO blog, Melanie!

As part of the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, I do updates on the folks I've interviewed. Melanie Delfiner's original interview was in November 2015.  By 2022, I asked Melanie for an update, which you can read here. She's still on the move, geographically as well as career-wise. I miss our regular appointments, but she's moved on to warmer climates, a fact I totally understand.

The beauty of Tennessee

Hiking in Tennessee

In August 2023, I moved to Tennessee just after receiving a health and wellness coaching certificate. I also received my Master's in Reike that year and started on the long process of registering with the state of Tennessee as a reflexologist. 

I am now working at Healing Hands Massage & Beauty Spa in Farragut, bringing a wealth of healing techniques as a registered, certified reflexologist. By adding REIKE as well as health and wellness coaching to my skill set, I am dedicated to guiding my clients on a path to improve their well-being.

You can find Melanie on social media:

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Thanks for visiting the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, where people like you and I share our extraordinary stories!

Extraordinary Host with the Most

by TLC Nielsen

Bria Burton and I were roommates at this amazing Sci-Fi/Fantasy convention called Realm Makers a few years ago. Watching her interview amazing authors live during the Joy on Paper radio show this year on YouTube, I'm in awe at Bria's wonderful ability to chat about so many varied topics. From blogging about running to writing science fiction books, Bria is an author and radio show host with the most.

Welcome to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, Bria!

Q) There's so much to ask you about, so let's start off with this—which came first, the blogging or the hosting? How did that come about?

Many years ago, I started a writing blog and a running blog. I confess I don't update either of them very often anymore. The guest hosting is a much more recent endeavor that started off as book reviews I'd record and send to Patzi Gil, host of the Joy on Paper radio show for writers and those who dream of writing. In 2022, Patzi asked me to do 2-minute science fiction book reviews that she could air on the show. She started the show nine years ago. Every Tuesday and Thursday at 11 am EST, she interviews authors—from best sellers to brand new and everything in between. 

Q) What made you start writing books?

As soon as I could write words and sentences, I knew I was a writer. My dream of becoming a published author started early. I remember stapling construction paper together to write my first "book" even illustrating the aliens myself (science fiction called to me even back then). I might've been seven or eight years old at the time, but it became an unquenchable fire that drove my decision to be an English major in college and to invest a lot of time and energy into honing my craft through writing conferences and critique groups. 

Q) I see that you have stories in a couple Sci-Fi anthologies—when did that come into the picture?

Years ago, I started submitting short stories at the same time I was submitting and getting rejections on an epic fantasy novel (which is still unpublished). It's a slow process to go through submissions, but I've managed to earn over 20 publishing credits through literary anthologies and magazines, primarily science fiction and fantasy.

At a Florida Writers Association (FWA) conference, I met two authors who wanted to create an author consortium of sorts with the goal of creating speculative fiction anthologies together (science fiction, fantasy, horror). I had recently won an award for that unpublished fantasy novel, and they invited me to join their group of twenty or so authors. Our first collaboration was The Prometheus Saga. We've done a total of six anthologies together under the banner of the Alvarium Experiment (our group name). It's unique in that we independently publish together. 

Q) Okay, how then did you end up as a radio show host?

About fifteen years ago, I first met Patzi Gil, host of Joy on Paper, at a meeting for FWA in St. Pete, Florida. I had the privilege of coming onto the show for an interview about my indie published novellas, and she really liked my voice. In 2022, she asked me to come on as a Special Correspondent for science fiction, which involves me recording 2-minute book reviews that she airs on the show. Eventually she asked me to guest host a Sci-Fi hour, which means I'm the one conducting the live interviews. I love chatting with science fiction authors, and it's become a monthly staple at Joy on Paper which is extremely fun for me.

Q) Is there a current project you're working on that you'd like to share?

I'm currently in last round edits for a science fiction novel called Ring Around the Sun. The story is a near-future adventure in the vein of Raiders of the Lost Ark, and I have a series in mind for it. An agent that I met at the Realm Makers Writers Conference is interested in the book, and I'm going to be submitting to him once I finish polishing it up.

Q) Where do you envision yourself in the next few years?

In many ways, I don't envision much change from what my life is like right now. I'm a mom and my son is currently six years old and in kindergarten, so he'll be doing a lot of growing and changing. But for me, I'm already doing much of what I truly enjoy. Running is another passion for me. I'm a blogger and customer service manager at St. Pete Running Company. I'm highly involved at my church where I disciple women who lead small groups and lead a Bible study. I've been the facilitator of my writers critique group since 2010, the SPwrites (St. Pete Writes).

Q) What's something unique about you the no one would ever guess?

Something unique about me that no one would guess might be the fact that I briefly held the record for girls pole vault at two different high schools. I happened to be the first female pole vaulter at both Centralia High School and St. Pete High. My family moved from Washington to Florida when I was a sophomore, which is why I hold records at both schools.

Discover Bria at her website and on social media:

Website—briaburton.com

YouTube—@Bria_Burton 

Facebook—www.facebook.com/briaburton.writer/

Thanks for coming to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, highlighting the stories of folks like you and me and the out of the ordinary adventures we experience. If you or someone you know is an Extraordinary Ordinary person, please contact TLC Nielsen at soulfixer 1 3 (at) yahoo.

Extraordinary Healthy Living by TLC Nielsen

Charlaine Martin is the owner of Be Totally Fit for Life. She loves to help individuals and groups glorify God through stewardship of the bodies in her Healthy Lifestyles program. Her commitment to health and Christian wellness comes as she pursues God through her own unique health journey. I met this resilient lady over ten years ago and was so impressed that I joined several of her healthy living groups online. I've been encouraged seeing God's handiwork through Char and the ministry to which He's called her.

Welcome to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, Charlaine, where regular folks like you and me share their extraordinary adventures!

Q) Char, how has your own personal health adventure guided you into your healthy living work?

First, thank you for inviting me to share Healthy Lifestyles with your followers! I had no idea my fitness career would take me this way, but God had a better plan than I did. I had no idea that I would find myself living with fibromyalgia, mixed collagen vascular disease, celiac disease, and multiple allergies. When I first began teaching water exercise and Arthritis Foundation exercise classes for seniors with various issues, God was setting a foundation for Be Totally Fit for Life's healthy lifestyles program. 

As my health changed, I had to apply the same principles of personal stewardship to my life. My body is not my own, it was bought at a price through Christ. In order to honor God in autoimmunity, I eat healthy, low-inflammatory foods, practice low-impact exercise, and work with my healthcare providers to serve God, my family, and my community. I teach others how to put personal stewardship principles into practices they can incorporate into their own lives. Ephesians 2:10 guides us in the Healthy Lifestyles groups.

Q) What main hurdle did you encounter along the way and what was the outcome?

Wow! God showed me that everything I have and whatever I do comes from Him. I had to yield my will to His when I found myself with so many limitations. Every breath, every step, and literally everything comes from God. I am not my own! I had to grieve losses of everything I loved about being physically capable of doing—things like Russian-style kettlebells, functional training, and HIIT exercise. I had to let it go. The ability to do those things with ease and grace all came from God.

Now I swim, do water exercise, modified bodyweight exercise, and cycling for shorter distances. I've adjusted my eating patterns to include gluten-free, allergy-friendly food options with more organics. If I didn't, I would do so much damage to my body. I've discovered that by being a part of disease-specific groups, I function considerably better than most. I'm allowing God to lead me in these healthy choices so I can write and be part of ministries at church while caring for family and friends. 

Q) When did you realize Tai Chi needed a Christian counterpoint and why?

About three years ago, I'd taught PraiseMoves, the Christian alternative to Yoga and wondered if there were any alternatives to Tai Chi out there. I found one, but it came from Tai Chi itself and some of what was practiced still had Eastern religious roots. There wasn't much out there, so I started playing around with what is now ChiRho Flow. 

Last year, I realized I needed to start teaching it online. There are several class members. Unfortunately, my health conditions sometimes cause me to cancel classes occasionally. Right now, classes are on hold while my doctors and I chase down some cardiac symptoms that are connected with autoimmune issues. Thankfully, I've been doing classes on YouTube so that class members can go back through past workouts. My plan and prayerfully God's plan is to begin certifying instructors so ChiRho Flow's future isn't dependent solely on me.

Q) How do you work with churches along with individuals?

Churches can contact me to set up Healthy Lifestyles programs and ChiRho Flow classes via an online forum. I can also train leaders from within their churches to lead and guide them. They can email me to start that conversation. (See links at the end.)

Individuals will usually see posts on social media announcing groups, classes and coaching for Healthy Lifestyles. They can fill out a form at my website if interested and they can make special requests regarding totally healthy living and Christian wellness. I will be offering my Adventures with God, using my new Christian Wellness Journal in April on Facebook, in a unique closed group with videos and discussions that groups members can access at times convenient for them. 

Q) Who influenced you the most in your healthy lifestyles journey?

Honestly, there is not just one individual. I've gained inspiration from gym members, clients, class members, supervisors, and colleagues. One man stands out, though. He was in his late 70s and had gone into cardiac arrest. Paramedics revived him, and he spent quite a while in the hospital. When his doctor released him to exercise at the gym, I welcomed him back when I saw him. He told me, "It's such a privilege to be here! Not everyone can say that."

Q) I noticed you were one of the presenters in the Healthy Living Summit this year—how did that turn out?

I'm privileged to teach a workshop at the Healthy Living Summit with some fantastic, talented Christian women this second year! Last year went really well. Participants loved my practical tips for making healthy food swaps and integrating exercise into their daily routines. I have 45 women in my workshop this time.

For this year, I felt God nudge me to teach about Christian Wellness because so many Christian women are beaten down in life. Many have unknowingly integrated New Age practices without realizing these draw them away from God rather than closer. I've received glowing feedback from those who have hear my message. Women can still participate by watching the recorded sessions for several weeks afterwards, but there is a fee since the Summit has ended. Here's the link.

Q) How has your health and wellness ministry changed since I've been involved?

Good question! I backed off for awhile because I burned out with it. But I have shifted more toward proactive agers taking care of their health, to do more for longer. I help them consider their health conditions when they are frustrated with weight loss and redirect their focus to healthy living. The ministry aspect is woven throughout. I find myself helping them recognize the false promises of the New Age movement and putting Jesus back at the center of their lives.

I've also changed the way I work with groups. Healthy Lifestyles did well for a lot of people, but it became outdated. I do updates for churches that continue to use this program. Currently, I'm inviting people to use the Christian Wellness Journal I created. We work from what they already know, but more emphasis is on integrating classical Christian disciplines. They still work on goals, make healthy swaps and find ways to work in fitness. People are gathering now for it starting April 2nd.

Q) What's one surprising thing about you? 

Hmmm. I think it is that I'm a nerd. Most health and fitness pros were the cheerleaders, athletes, and social butterflies. Certainly, I've been a martial artist since 1996 and a swimmer since 2000, but these are individual sports which works for a nerd like me. Because of the traits that go with nerdiness, I look at individuals' needs to help them from an analytical perspective as I help them solve problems and create solutions. I'm also not one to follow the crowd, so I assist people to look outside the box and connect with God at a deeper level.

Thank you for reading the EO blog, finding the EXTRA in the ordinary. Please contact Charlaine Martin on her website or on social media.

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzWs2-S1nqsZh-kyFlFH5aQ
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/betotallyfitforlife/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlainemartin84/?hl=en
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/charlainmartin/
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Charlaine-Martin/author/B08YRVPSMS?ref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

UPDATE: Extraordinary Counseling by TLC Nielsen

Colleen Ryan and I worked together in the public library in the pre-pandemic days, and she graciously agreed to be featured on the EO blog back then (original interview.) Both of us have moved on to other careers in the meantime and so it's a privilege to share what she's up to currently.

Welcome back, Colleen!

Thank you for the opportunity to provide an update on my counseling and mission trips.

Last time we spoke, I was opening my own counseling practice and, although I've been told I'm a really good counselor, I soon discovered I'm not so good at marketing and publicity—I had more open time slots available than filled. So I was thankful when the opportunity came to be hired by the Biblical Counseling Center to work at their Arlington Heights location, and I've been really busy with clients ever since. By my choice I work 18–20 hours a week and absolutely love helping people find both help and hope through God's Word. For the Bible has a lot to say about anxiety, depression, communication, anger and so much more.

My "sweet spot", if you will, is working with women between 25–80, although I find great delight in working with 13–25 year olds too. Oftentimes we deal with the same issues, but they just present differently with different age groups of people. I offer both in office and online counseling. Interestingly enough about 75% of my clients choose online. Now granted, I do have some clients who are out of state as well as out of the country, but even some of the local ones tend to gravitate toward online. There's something to be said for the "commute" time.

I'm still leading annual mission trips to Honduras and find so much joy in doing that. My husband and I have been doing so since 2002, missed 2020 due to Covid, but right back at it in 2021. There's something about being stretched to go out of our comfort zone and help people in need.

Since 2022 we've added annual trips to Bolivia as well. Due to my counseling experience, I was asked to provide missionary care to a sweet group of people there who oftentimes need a listening ear, help navigating a difficult situation, or guidance with needing to improve communications to better facilitate conflict resolution. Interestingly enough, missionaries are just like us. And so my husband and I make annual trips to Bolivia to spend time with them to continue building those friendships and come alongside them with help and encouragement. Throughout the year, we also stay in contact. It's a blessing to serve them in this way.

So as you can see, life is full and rewarding in my various endeavors. I'm so thankful for the doors that God has opened and how He's equipped me to come alongside and help hurting people.

 If you're interested in pursuing counseling or training to become a counselor, check out Colleen's workplace, Biblical Counseling Center. You can also contact Colleen via email: cryan (at) biblicalcounselingcenter (dot) org.

Thank you for visiting the Extraordinary Ordinary blog! If you know someone with an extraordinary story who'd like to be interviewed, please email TLC Nielsen at soulfixer13 (at) yahoo (dot) com and put EO blog in the subject line.

Extraordinary Caregiving: Venus Schrader

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Extraordinary Caregiving

I bumped into Venus Schrader at a writing convention and am so glad we started chatting! Her unique path of learning self-care as a caregiver to her spouse has her now leading retreats and writing books about caregiving as well as making a difference as a licensed massage therapist.

Welcome to the Extraordinary Ordinary blog, Venus!

Q) Caregiving is a unique calling. At what point did this calling come into your life?

I was born a caregiving Big Sister to Jay, my brother three years younger, and sister Sarisa, seven years younger. Single Mom to four spunky kiddos. These prepared me for my 20-year mission field as the full-time caregiver to my Husband.

Q) How did massage therapy factor into your caring for your spouse?

Being trained as a massage therapist taught me the importance of self-care. Practicing those skills I teach my patients: breathing, stretching, hydrating are the Big three. Helped me to care for my husband from a place of love and not frustration.

Q) Where were you when you first knew massage therapy was the job for you?

I was at home recovering from being (temporarily) blind due to diabetes when a massage therapy school commercial came on.

Q) At what point did you realize how important self-care is for caregivers?

When I woke up in the ER with a blood sugar level of 1500 and my husband in a wheelchair at my bedside.

Q) Why did it take so long for you to administer self-care?

I didn't have time to care for myself. All my energy went into keeping the humans alive in my life.

Q) How did God use your caregiving to reach people outside the family?

In the midst of this, I teamed up with my ministry partner and we started hosting ministry events to encourage women to fulfill God's purpose for their life. 

Q) When did you know God was using your circumstances for good?

When our faith increased and our relationship with God grew stronger. Despite 12 surgeons telling us Randy wouldn't survive the procedure. He did every time. Randy was truly a living, breathing miracle.

Q) Where is God leading you now?

God is leading me to share my story and to encourage other caregivers to take care of themselves. I am working on a podcast to share the information from the book I'm working on.

Q) What is one surprising thing about yourself? I have been to two Sir Elton John concerts!      

Venus Schrader is a team member of the Beauty for Ashes (BFA) retreats for women alongside Andy Lee and Debbie Hufham. Check out Venus' website here and see a photo of us together!

Ladies, you can also attend the March 1–2, 2024 BFA virtually—check it out.